I read the following and it resonated with me. Life is happier, healthier, and simpler if you do not over-think everyone and everything.
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The following is By Elizabeth Grace Saunders
If you base your actions on what you perceive as the worthiness or unworthiness of another, you will be in a state of constant judgment of others and struggle over your sense of obligation to them. However, if you choose to be kind, be thoughtful, and serve do so because you desire to be a kind, thoughtful, and service-oriented person, then you can accept and respect all others as worthy of your kindness.
Most people don't wake up in the morning thinking, I really want to annoy everyone around me. Always assume people don't know that something really bothers you unless you've explicitly told them it's a problem. It's also essential to keep in mind that something that may be obvious or common sense to you, may not be clear to someone else. This could result from differences in age, experience, intellect, personality, or any number of factors. Also, you may have the ability to see when people are "faking" something, but many people don't have this emotional x-ray vision.
You may think that you know why someone did what they did or what they meant by something. But until you actually ask them, you don't really know their motives. Maybe a lack of response to your greeting had more to do with the fact that they didn't sleep well the night before and were half asleep than that they simply wanted to ignore you. Assume people didn't intend to make you feel badly. Also remember that how you feel about an action has more to do with your current mental and emotional state than the action that happened.
You may have some legitimate complaints about people's behavior but you want to avoid criticism—over generalizing that complaint to an indictment of their overall character—or contempt where you display disgust toward them. Both unfairly simplify the complexity of an individual (we all have times when we're not on our best behavior) and make it really difficult for you to feel like behaving in a positive manner toward the typecast party.
If you start to feel resentful or frustrated, figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself: get some sleep, go on a run, watch a funny movie, talk with a friend, or do something else that you find refreshing. Filling yourself up emotionally will give you a greater capacity to give to others.
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The following is By Elizabeth Grace Saunders
If you base your actions on what you perceive as the worthiness or unworthiness of another, you will be in a state of constant judgment of others and struggle over your sense of obligation to them. However, if you choose to be kind, be thoughtful, and serve do so because you desire to be a kind, thoughtful, and service-oriented person, then you can accept and respect all others as worthy of your kindness.
Most people don't wake up in the morning thinking, I really want to annoy everyone around me. Always assume people don't know that something really bothers you unless you've explicitly told them it's a problem. It's also essential to keep in mind that something that may be obvious or common sense to you, may not be clear to someone else. This could result from differences in age, experience, intellect, personality, or any number of factors. Also, you may have the ability to see when people are "faking" something, but many people don't have this emotional x-ray vision.
You may think that you know why someone did what they did or what they meant by something. But until you actually ask them, you don't really know their motives. Maybe a lack of response to your greeting had more to do with the fact that they didn't sleep well the night before and were half asleep than that they simply wanted to ignore you. Assume people didn't intend to make you feel badly. Also remember that how you feel about an action has more to do with your current mental and emotional state than the action that happened.
You may have some legitimate complaints about people's behavior but you want to avoid criticism—over generalizing that complaint to an indictment of their overall character—or contempt where you display disgust toward them. Both unfairly simplify the complexity of an individual (we all have times when we're not on our best behavior) and make it really difficult for you to feel like behaving in a positive manner toward the typecast party.
If you start to feel resentful or frustrated, figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself: get some sleep, go on a run, watch a funny movie, talk with a friend, or do something else that you find refreshing. Filling yourself up emotionally will give you a greater capacity to give to others.
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